RELATIONSHIP ISSUES PART 2: RELATIONSHIP VIOLENCE

                                       Check your relationship today is it love or Stockholm syndrome? Or Lima syndrome ?. are you the captor? or the hostage?-- Daramola olamodesi.

   Domestic violence is violent or aggressive behaviour within the home, typically involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner.
   Domestic violence is one of the major problems of relationship nowadays, and many of such victims have kept quiet about their abysmal plight.
   Domestic influence may include the following:
1.physical abuse.
2.Verbal/Emotional abuse.
  Physical abuse is any intentional and
unwanted contact with you or something
close to your body. Sometimes abusive
behavior does not cause pain or even
leave a bruise, but it’s still unhealthy.
Examples of physical abuse are:
Scratching, punching, biting,
strangling or kicking. Throwing something at you such as a phone, book, shoe or plate. Pulling your hair. Pushing or pulling you. Grabbing your clothing. Using a gun, knife, bat or other weapon. Smacking your bottom. Grabbing your face to make you look at them. Sexual abuse etc
   Most college and high school relationship nowadays suffer physical abuse and the following steps should be taken against such abuse: realise such behavior is wrong, talk to an adult about it, create a safety plan, do not create excuses for such physical abuse and remember physical abuse is never your fault.
   Emotional abuse includes non-physical
behaviors such as threats, insults,
constant monitoring, excessive texting, humiliation, intimidation, isolation or stalking.
   Emotional abuse may include the following: Yelling and screaming at you.
Intentionally embarrassing you in
public. Preventing you from seeing or talking with friends and family. Telling you what to do and wear. Damaging your property when they’re angry (throwing objects, punching walls, kicking doors, etc.) Blaming your actions for their abusive or unhealthy behavior. Accusing you of cheating and often being jealous of your outside relationships. Stalking you etc
   Verbal abuse might have not inflicted any damage on you physically but it affect your state of mind. E.g getting scared unnecessarily, negative thoughts etc can lead to emotional pain and damage.   
   Remember emotional abuse is never your fault. In fact, your partner may just
be trying to control or manipulate you into
staying in the relationship. Talk to someone you trust, like a parent, friend or
teacher, about the situation and make a safety plan.
   IN CONCLUSION, domestic violence must be prevented,it is a growing disease in our society and fast measures should be taken against this cancer. This prevention strategy may include the following:
1. Reforming the legislation.
2. Changing gender norms.
3. Promoting respect relationship etc.