All around the world young men and women have listed love and attraction over personal traits as a requirement for matrimonial covenants. However , research have shown that people with the best marital satisfaction have ended up with people with excellent personal trait regardless of which type of spouse they think they want. Particularly, a spouse emotional stability and agreeableness have been discovered to stimulate sexual and marital satisfaction. Hence its better to have a warm, cooperative and agreeable spouse rather than have the arrogant, moody and hot looking spouse.
You may be thinking that the spouses with excellent traits sound boring. You want someone very attractive and interesting, and believe you're willing to put up with some moodiness or arrogance to have that attraction. Remember the attractive and arrogant individuals always derive attention: they are sporadically emotionally or physically available, creating the impression that they are a scarce and valuable resources. The arrogant believes his/her good moods and love must earned. A process that hold at bay any evaluation of their characters.
Young people who have ended up in relationship with arrogant individuals have failed to realise 1 thing, until they have endured a very long stretch of unfairness in their relationship; the fact that their arrogant spouse was expecting some consideration in return for the existence of such relationship. "Much like in a dating relationship in which the party who desires the other more must accommodate the other’s wishes, the arrogant spouse
assumes you will do more than half the work to compensate for your lower desirability. Their expectation sounds unreasonable, but arrogant people are image builders not truth-seekers" - Anita kelly Ph.D.
The exclusive focus on a partner's good quality and not the bad ones could also cloud good judgement of their character. Consider what Walter Mischel observed regarding how people judged whether a given person had a certain personality trait. He found that they would recall and string together examples of that person’s behavior across time that were highly representative of that specific trait—yet they would fail to notice contradictory examples. For example, in determining maybe a friend is caring we might remember when she lent us money or gave us food to eat, hereby, overlooking her other uncaring behaviours.
To keep from ending up with an arrogant, deceptive, or exploitative spouse, cast a broad net. There are so many single people out there, especially on internet dating sites, you have no excuse for settling for the gummy worms on the kitchen counter when you can find a golden apple elsewhere. Remember what you are looking for is humility and what you are avoiding is arrogance. When you do find that sincere, humble, fair-minded
person, you might be shocked to discover how sexy he or she is rather that the believe that humble people are uninteresting and unattractive.
You can never be sure if a romantic partner is decent enough for marriage, but you can tell if they are not good enough from their belittling acts.
Note*: Mr. right is not always right but Mr. wrong is always right. - Daramola Olamodesi
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