If you and your partner are constantly making assumptions about what each other thinks, this can really cause relationship problems, because you might not know the actual capacity of your spouse and UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS might thus arise.
Do you still think your partner is a princess or a knight in shining armours? Whereas he is just a peasant. When you first met your partner you were really relating to a fantasy - you 'edited out' information about him or her with your own personal template.
You didn't reveal all of yourself either... in some sense you presented yourself as 'the princess' or 'the knight' and he presented himself as such too, there the request from the partner would be high and the second partner might not be able to fulfil this wish, then problems arises.
Just like the pics above how possible is it for that kid to lift such heavy weight? That is how it seems when a partner pester another for a wish he is unable to perform because he lacks the power or supplies.
Issue of unrealistic expectation arise in a relationship, when partners communicate in languages that are not explicit but rather implied, unrealistic expectation might set in, You might miss masses of information, thus if assume the meaning of your partners words without fully understanding what he/she meant, you might go forth to do what he doesn't expect while actually you are trying to satisfy him.
The solution to the above problem is that if you ever want a partner try to know them completely, and don't ask for what you know they can't provide and always remember we are all different. That a relationship will survive is not Brent on the fact that you are compatible but on how you can deal with the incompatibilities.
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