ARE YOU LIVING IN YOUR OWN WORLD

                                       
Each one of us is the star, producer, director and audience of our very own feature film in the theater of our mind. It’s like living in our own parallel universe. There is the “real world” — within which we all exist and interact with one another — and then, within each of us, there occurs a creative interpretation of reality that may or may not bear any resemblance to objective reality or to the creative interpretation of others. Our ongoing emotional and ideological responses reflect who we think we are and what we think is going on. That creates our inner movie — a refracted reflection of reality that serves as the foundation upon which we base our actions and reactions in our shared world. The implications of this are enormous.

When we become too insulated in our own little world, we lose contact with other people and lose sight of the importance of their wants and needs, hopes and dreams and and their ability to contribute to our shared world. We also tend not to notice how our way of being is impacting them. One of life’s greatest challenges is striking a balance between living in our very own unique world and cohabitating in a shared world — bearing responsibility for our contribution. So, I have two questions for you:

1. What goes on in the theater of your mind?
2. What are you contributing to our shared world?

We have a tendency to think in polarities: “I am right and you are wrong if you disagree with me.” Many of us go about our lives assuming that our inner movie is pretty darn close to objective reality, that anyone whose inner movie tells them otherwise is way off the mark. It takes some skill, wisdom, sensitivity, compassion and humility to recognize that we are each a product of our unique blend of nature and nurture — not inherently better or worse than others, but different. Even identical twins have their dissimilarities. Each of us lives what we believe and what we learn. As in Rumi’s allegory about the blind men and the elephant, no two people have the exact same point of view. As a result, we see what we see. It can be difficult to convince us otherwise.

The fact is, we can’t get anywhere near the whole picture until we get out of our own little monologue and truly listen to, and take into consideration, the point of view of others. It is very easy to jump to conclusions about the thoughts, beliefs, motivation and actions of others — based solely on our own interpretation. It can be very educational and yield far better results to consider what movies others are watching and why.

How often have you gotten into a misunderstanding in your business or personal life where one person misread the other’s motives, intentions or integrity? It happens all the time. I remember a time when I was working in Corporate America and there was a major change of management in my division. I happened to run into our new leader at the elevator one day, and he asked me, “Are they keeping you busy over there?” I naively responded with honesty: “Unfortunately no, and that concerns me.” The next day I arrived at work to find that my boss was in our division head’s office fighting to save my job. The big boss wanted me fired for insubordination. He settled for an apology which I gave, knowing that I didn’t owe him one but needing to keep my job. How different that experience might have been, had he taken my words as sincere and wanted to know more about why I felt as I did. After all, I was telling him that — as one of his resources — I was being underutilized.

It’s good to get out and about from your own inner theater. If you don’t, your myopic focus is likely to make you a very selfish and self-centered person, who contributes little positive nature to the rest of the world. Get out! Be challenged, and enrich your point of view through intentional and meaningful exposure to the worlds that others live in. Try caring about the well-being of others, even if you don’t know them. It is essential to consider that the inner movies of others are worth taking into account when trying to get along and play nice.

Consider the collective impact of our selfishness. Just as my new division head missed the opportunity to make me a more productive member of his team, we do the very same thing when we dismiss the needs and concerns of others. Just imagine what we could create, promote and allow in our collective world if we understood the power of loving, caring and sharing as ways to unite and empower us all. When we silence and suppress one another, as in political debates, we miss the point. When we contribute our knowledge and skills to creating a collective, where all individuals are fully supported in being productive members of society, we build a rich and rewarding shared world.

I think we go way off track when we interact primarily from our mind and ego and place our concern on getting other people to agree with us. When we encounter differences in opinion from this point of view, we attempt to dominate and silence one another. When we allow ourselves to also connect through our hearts and souls, we seek to understand, to care and to find a solution and a way to participate that serves the highest good of all concerned. Whether disagreeing with our partner, or those who vote differently than us, we need to learn how to appreciate, support, embrace and be kind to those who walk to the beat of a different drum.

WHO AM I?

   This question - asked so often - suggests that there is actually a plausible answer. Almost as if our being were a fixed thing. People who ask this sort of question are typically struggling with their identity and are searching for a core sense of themselves. The irony is that the more you seek to identify who you are, the more fragile you are likely to feel about yourself. There may be an inverse correlation between the question being asked and the ease with which you experience your life. The emphasis shouldn't be on discovering who you are (what is buried beneath) but on facilitating the emergence of what you'd like to experience.
   Our identity should be seen as an ongoing process. Rather than a static snapshot, we should embrace a flowing sense of self, whereby we are perpetually re-framing, re-organizing, re-thinking and re-considering ourselves. How different would life be if rather than asking who am I, we contemplated how we'd like to engage life?
   A sense of inadequacy often informs the question around "Who am I?" As people engage the deepening complexity of understanding themselves, they would fare much better to devote themselves to the unfolding process of life. Witnessing our thoughts, not reacting out of old habit, and becoming present enable us to better craft our lives. As such, the identity that we seek fires the wave of life, enriched by the flow.
   Imagine that you've been in prison for twenty years, incarcerated since the age of eighteen. You literally have no adult life experience outside of the penitentiary. Your sense of self is tragically limited. You might ask yourself, "Who am I? This would likely provoke a fragile sense of self that paradoxically might leave you most apprehensive about your imminent release. You'd hardly choose to remain imprisoned until you could find your identity. You'd have to permit that new sense of self to flow from your new experiences.
   I have worked with people who have been married more or less for their entire adult lives. Upon divorce they are often confronted with a distressing thought. They claim that they don't know who they are. More to the point, they may not know who they are as a single, autonomous adult, not partnered.  After all, how could they?  Rather than remaining mired in fear, you'd need to summon up a sense of wonder and adventure. There is a new sense of self waiting to be born. You get to re-craft yourself along the way.
   At the other end of the identity continuum are those who claim to know themselves so well. This other extreme also signifies a fragility about one's identity. To know yourself so well leaves no room for growth. Even more, it suggests a deep vulnerability that is being defended against - as if it were too dangerous to take a closer look.
   It makes perfect sense to seek a deeper sense of self. To become intimately aware of your thoughts, feelings, hopes and fears is obviously advisable. The key is to engage your sense of self as malleable, more like a willow tree than a sturdy oak. The willow is flexible and survives the storm as it bends with the wind, whereas the more rigid oak is more likely to crack.
   The universe purportedly exists in a state of flowing potential. And it is essential to understand that we are indeed part of that universe. The goal then is to access that potential, keeping the parts of our identity that continue to serve us well and shedding the old, habitual pieces that constrain us. This process is known as positive disintegration. This permits us to find balance between the extremes previously discussed and enter into a relationship with self that commits to our personal evolution.
                                                                                             ADAPTED FROM  MEL SCHWARTZ'S
                                                                                                          "A SHIFT OF MIND"

SCIENCE, THE PROOF OF THE BIBLE

   What have science done and have not been foretold in the bible already?, is it not ironical how science try so much to disprove the bible but end up creating more concrete evidence to the words which the bible have said? Today we shall be looking at how science have been able to affirm the words of the bible.

   Scientists have always shown discontent towards the immaculate conception of our lord Jesus christ, they said how possible can there be a pregnancy without fertilization?,and then the science of cloning was discovered. Cloning involve asexual propagation where fertilization or inter-gamete relationship is not required for reproduction.

   About a thousand years, science change the believe of the populace about our cosmic home(earth). Before this time it was believed that the earth was flat and was on the back of a giant turtle or was floating on a water, and then through enough scientific proofs, it was ascertained that the earth was standing on nothing and is sphere and not flat. Thousands of years even before this discovery the bible have said it all, for prophet Isaiah said "It is he that sits upon the circle of the earth" (Isaiah 40:22). And job confirm the floating of the earth in (job 26:7)

   It was only of recent that science start establishing the existence of dinosaurs through fossil records and other means, but the bible provided for the existence of these animals even over 3000years ago in the book of job, it also gave a reason to why dinosaurs disappeared. Why then did the dinosaur disappear? The answer may be in Job 40:15–24. In this passage, God speaks about a great creature called "behemoth." Following are the characteristics of this huge animal: It was the largest of all the creatures God made; was plant-eating (herbivorous); had its strength in its hips and a tail like a large tree. It had very strong bones, lived among the trees, drank massive amounts of water, and was not disturbed by a raging river. He appears impervious to attack because his nose could pierce through snares, and Scripture says, "He that made him can make his sword to approach unto him." In other words, God caused this, the largest of all the creatures He had made, to become extinct.

   The Bible specifies the perfect dimensions for a stable water vessel (Genesis 6:15). Ship builders today are well aware that the ideal dimension for ship stability is a length six times that of the width. Keep in mind, God told Noah the ideal dimensions for the ark 4,500 years ago.

   When dealing with disease, clothes and body should be washed under running water (Leviticus 15:13). This was not discovered until the 18th century. For centuries people naively washed in standing water. Today we recognize the need to wash away germs with fresh water.

   There are mountains on the bottom of the ocean floor (Jonah 2:5-6). Only in the last century have we discovered that there are towering mountains and deep trenches in the depths of the sea.

   There are so many more provisions which the bible have ascertained thousands of years before their actual discovery by science e.g leprosy as in Leviticus, the rotation of the earth in luke, atoms in Hebrew and romans etc.

MOTION WITHOUT MOVEMENT.

     It is very pesky, when you see people who have invested much activity into their works and life without really seeing a the effect of such activities. The main reason for this is that this people only worked hard and not smart, they keep working in motions(changing of position that does not entails change of location) refusing to move with the essentials and basics of success.

   The French assertion 'mouvement sans effet?' Meaning movement without effect is a clearer interpretation of the topic "motion without movement". For example the rocking chair keeps rocking to and fro, from back to front and vice versa, without the chair really changing its location. This is a perfect example of what we are saying here; even though the chair tries hard shaking so many times it wont still move.

   The type of motion painted supra, is very common among individual today, we see alot of people today who certificates but no work, even some have business which they have invested a lot of money into and still the business is running down, why?, this people lack the common sense of working smartly. They don't even understand the concept of follow up, some got certificates through crude means(and you want work) some don't even know when to sell and not to sell, when to attack and when to evade and so on. No wonder they keep trying all their best without much success.

   Another perfect example is the state of economy of Nigeria. One thing have not been able to understand is how people in Nigeria work tirelessly, ranging from the peasants to the politicians and even government officials and the economy of the country is still in a state of disarray. The simple truth must be told the governments are trying their best but it is not enough as they still take some very crucial part of the country administration with flippancy. Imagine when the minister of sport, housing, power, labour, economy budget etc are all lawyers, what does a lawyer know about economy or power. Lawyers are not the only sensible people in the society. Arguably there are still competent people who are in a discipline which are more compatible with the portfolio aforementioned, why are this people not appointed? I think it is time for Nigeria to start working smart rather than working hard alone, the president keeps travelling and travelling and the economy keeps worsening, is he just working for working sake or for the betterment of the Nigerians. A true change is needed, these motions without movement must stop.

 

WHAT HAPPENS AFTER DEATH ?(cont)

   As a believer, I truly belief in the existence of life after death and human transcends into a new life.

   Testimonies that people have shared about their clinical death experiences through interviews and books provides a backbone to the fact that life may actually exist after death. Example of these books include Yemi bankole's 4hours interview in hell, exploring the great beyond by geoffrey farthings, death and personal survival by Robert F. Almelder inter alia

   where is my mind, have you ever asked yourself this beautiful question before?, now where is your mind? Think about it the mind as never been biologically proven to exist in our body, the mind exist in our soul. In the mind of the soul, there you could find consciousness and all the relating elements. This means that It can be argued that man does not comprise of only the body alone but some other element which can be said to be immortal, so where does these elements go when persons physical body actually dies.

   when a man die this what actually happens:

 The other subtle elements leaves the body and the body decay, so what happens to the subtle elements? According to some particular views, they roam around until they find another vessel(body) in which they are recarnated, and continue to dwell among men. This argument is faulted based on the fact that if this is what truly happened then maybe I was Abraham in my last life lol. We could all have had the knowledge about our last life if truly we are all recarnations.

   From my own findings and deep reasoning, I have been able to conclude that the soul of man leaves his body and journey to a new world after his death.

"And it came to pass, as her soul was in departing, (for she died) that she called his name Benoni: but his father called him Benjamin."(Genesis 35:18 KJV)

   The soul is duly expected to return back to his maker, and the maker might decide to destroy such soul if it has been tainted dark.

   In conclusion, when a man die his body is left for dead and his soul transcends into the world beyond, because the main fact that an imperishable soul exist, solidifies the backbone the near-death experience have provided for the believers argument.

WHAT HAPPENS AFTER DEATH ?

   What happens to us when we die? It’s a question that has exercised humanity’s finest minds since humans have been around to have them. The answer to the above question is divided into two sections; It is either you believe or you skepticize, if you are a believer you tend more to believe that a life exist beyond our normal world and when we die we transcend to this world, the world might be a davenport of goodies, or a den of suffering depending on the justification that be. Contrary to the above a skeptic might believe that none of the above is true and we just vanish after we die, our spirits transcends to nowhere. Which one do you think is true between the two aforementioned circumstances? In this article we will be addressing what man may encounter after his death. Do Life after death truly exists?

   The main problem about the two issues above is that both aspect have a support of human testimony; people who have been clinically dead have always shared their experience. Some say it was total blackout(skeptic's view), and some say it is a whole be experience of a different world(believer's view). In an interview conducted by reddit some people who were interviewed said they all felt like the period between their clinical death and revival was just like HAVING A SLEEP WITHOUT NO DREAMS(skeptic), a patient also emphasize that she had no memory of the time between her so called death and revival.

   And in the believers view, also in the same reddit interview, some patient attested that during this period of death, they were self aware. A patient confirmed that he remembers a little bit of the ambulance ride, but not from his own body. "it was seriously the strangest thing I have ever experienced. It could have been a dream, but I saw my own unconscious body, completely flatlined, in the ambulance . I remember the EMT who was in the ambulance with me (whom I did not see before I passed out) had mint green hair and I couldn't remember his name, but I asked for him when I regained consciousness about three days later."

   Of this two views, which one do you think is true? Do you just die and vanish?, or you transcend?

    kindly visit our blog for the next post to share from my own opinion about what happens after life and why I believe these facts to be true true.

THE BERMUDA TRIANGLE THEORIES

The Bermuda Triangle is a region in the western North Atlantic Ocean, off the Florida coast, that has reportedly the highest number of cases of planes and ships mysteriously disappearing without a trace. It is a region roughly in the shape of a triangle, located between Miami on the Florida coast and two islands, the island of Bermuda and the island of San Juan in Puerto Rico. The mystery of the Bermuda Triangle, which is also known as the 'Devil's Triangle' or the 'Isle of Devils', remains unsolved even today. However, several theories have come up, including those that indicate even supernatural and paranormal presence. Just go through the article to know which ones are considered the top ten theories.
Top Ten Theories Behind the Bermuda Triangle
Here are the top ten theories that attempt to explain the mystery.
Theory 10: Effect of a Comet
The first theory that we'll discuss here is the theory that a comet from outer space crashed into the earth some thousands of years ago, near the area that is now the Bermuda Triangle. People who believe in this theory, also seem to believe that somewhere in the depths of the ocean, there lie the remains of this comet and it is the electromagnetic field of the comet that causes all the havoc, including disruptions of aircraft signals. No traces of a comet or anything similar to it has been found yet, and in the absence of a proof, this theory remains nothing but an assumption.
Theory 9: Time Warp
This theory is one of the most popular theories, in spite of the fact that there is nothing to prove it. The 'time warp' theory claims that the reason for so many disappearances is time travel. In other words, this theory says that when something ends up at the Bermuda Triangle, it either travels back in time or to some time in the future. There are also people who have reported seeing a huge tunnel shaped cloud around the region, which they believe is a tunnel for time travel.
Theory 8: Attack by Pirates
Although this theory cannot be totally ruled out, it fails to explain the reason for the disappearance of the aircraft. According to this theory, the reason why so many ships disappeared is because of pirates who are especially active in this part of the Atlantic. Piracy has been the reason behind the destruction and disappearance of many a large vessel in the past, in different parts of the world. Some theorists are of the opinion that in addition to piracy, attack by enemy vessels might also be a reason. This theory might prove to be true for at least some of the disappearances in the past.
Theory 7: Methane Gas
What this theory has to say is that it is methane gas that is largely responsible for the notorious reputation of the Bermuda Triangle. According to this theory, bubbles of methane gas rising up to the surface of water decreases its density thereby lowering the buoyant force exerted by the water. Due to this reason, large vessels might no longer be able to stay afloat and might sink without a trace. But what about the remains of the ships? They ought to be found somewhere down below, isn't it? Well, there seems to be a viable explanation for that as well! The strong currents of the Gulf Stream drifts them far away from the region. Well, even though this theory is plausible, the fact remains that there isn't any underwater source of methane gas anywhere close to the region.
Theory 6: City of Atlantis
This theory is supported by some people who believe that the lost city of Atlantis was located somewhere close to the Bahamas. What they also believe is that the mysterious city still lies buried somewhere below the ocean, and legend has it that this city was powered by energy obtained from powerful crystals. According to this theory, the effect of the remains of these crystals is what is responsible for the aircraft radio signals going haywire. There are even supposed proofs for the same, the most important one being the Bimini Road, which is a peculiar rock structure that appears to be an ancient dockyard.
Theory 5: Extraterrestrial Activity
There is a slight variation in the two versions of this theory but the basic idea is the same: alien activity is the cause behind the disappearance of so many vessels and aircraft. One version states that it all occurs due to aliens or living beings from other planets, abducting people, while the other version has a slightly different take on it. It says that the aircraft and ships traveling over the region sometimes end up there at the time when aliens are supposedly traveling between our planet and theirs. These vessels are then automatically taken along to another dimension or may be, who knows, even to another planet altogether! And the poor things are unable to return, it seems, or at least that's what the theory wants you to believe. In spite of the fact that there isn't any proof, this theory is, by far, the most popular one, and has captured the imagination of one and all. More so after the release of the Steven Spielberg movie Close Encounters of the Third Kind.
Theory 4: Strong Magnetic Field
This theory says that the cause behind the notorious reputation of the Bermuda Triangle is the Earth's magnetic field in that particular region. It has been often observed that compasses begin to spin rapidly near the area, and navigation equipment stop functioning properly. This is because it is one of the two places on earth where the geographic north and magnetic north coincide. Due to this, electromagnetic storms originating below the earth's surface rise to the atmosphere and leave a fog behind. The strong magnetic effects in the region is believed to be responsible for so many people vanishing into thin air.
Theory 3: U.S. Military Base
Ever heard about Area 51? It is a base of the U.S. Air Force where testing of military equipment is carried out and which is notorious for many reported UFO sightings. Well, there is a similar testing base of the U.S. Navy on the Andros Islands in the Bahamas. Some people believe that there is something more to it than a mere weapon testing base and that it is the site where the government has built equipment to communicate with the extraterrestrial. And it is this supposedly advanced technology that has something to do with the vanishing of ships and planes!
Theory 2: Rough Weather
This is one of the more practical theories explaining the mystery. The Atlantic Ocean is famous for its storms, hurricanes and rough weather. Violent storms and hurricanes cause the waves to rise as high as 80 feet or more. Add to that the strong current of the Gulf Stream and you have a situation from which it is almost impossible to escape! Even more danger lurks beneath the ocean as this is the deepest region in the Atlantic, the location of the Puerto Rico trench. So, if a ship or an aircraft gets trapped in the storm and sinks deep into the water, it can very well appear to have disappeared without a trace!
Theory 1: human error
Believed to be the number one reason for the disappearances, this theory states that it all happened as a result of human errors. The area surrounding the Bermuda Triangle consists of a string of islands, each very similar to the other. Because of this, it is very difficult to find your way there. Moreover, the rough weather and storms add to the risk factor. In such a scenario, once you are lost, it becomes very difficult to return. Also, the area experiences a lot of air traffic which increases the probability of disasters.
These were the top ten Bermuda Triangle theories explained in brief. So, which theory sounds like the most apt explanation for this famous mystery? Well, I leave that for you to decide!

RELATIONSHIP ISSUE PART 5: UNREALISTIC EXPECTATION.

If you and your partner are constantly making assumptions about what each other thinks, this can really cause relationship problems, because you might not know the actual capacity of your spouse and UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS might thus arise.

  Do you still think your partner is a princess or a knight in shining armours? Whereas he is just a peasant.  When you first met your partner you were really relating to a fantasy - you 'edited out' information about him or her with your own personal template.
You didn't reveal all of yourself either... in some sense you presented yourself as 'the princess' or 'the knight' and he presented himself as such too, there the request from the partner would be high and the second partner might not be able to fulfil this wish, then problems arises.

   Just like the pics above how possible is it for that kid to lift such heavy weight? That is how it seems when a partner pester another for a wish he is unable to perform because he lacks the power or supplies.

   Issue of unrealistic expectation arise in a relationship, when partners communicate in languages that are not explicit but rather implied, unrealistic expectation might set in, You might miss masses of information, thus if assume the meaning of your partners words without fully understanding what he/she meant, you might go forth to do what he doesn't expect while actually you are trying to satisfy him.

   The solution to the above problem is that if you ever want a partner try to know them completely, and don't ask for what you know they can't provide and always remember we are all different. That a relationship will survive is not Brent on the fact that you are compatible but on how you can deal with the incompatibilities.

NEVER OUTSHINE THE MASTER.

   IF your are more intelligent more than your master never let your action show thus. The favours you receive from your master never let it go to your head and you start misbehaving as this is so important to your career.
   French finance minister Fouquet unintentional outshone his master King Louis XIV,making the king feel insecure by throwing a lavish party to showcase his connections, cultivated manners and charm. He thought his action will make the king deem him as indispensable but things backfired when the king felt unsecured. The king the finds a convenient excuse and got rid of fouquet.
  A person can still showcase his talent and impress his talent and impress his master rather than outshining him by ascribing or dedicating his works to him.
   For example, when Galileo discovered the moons of Jupiter he dedicated it to the Medici family, whose royal symbol is Jupiter. He further made an emblem for them with each moon representing the sons devil in around the patriarch. The Medici family became his major patron, appointing him their official philosopher, thus, providing him with a more comfortable life and a steady salary eradicating his perennial problem of FUNDING.
lessons: Present your work in such ways that echoes the thought of the master.
Never let the favour you receive go to your head.
#credit: Robert Greene, 48 LAWS OF POWER, 1998

FREE, BUT IN CHAINS

                                      Man is born free and every where he is in chains - J. J Rousseau 

   Man is said to be free, but still move in chains. The meaning of the assertion above is that even though a Freeman has freedom he is not left unchecked or without limitations. The chain could either be light(freeman) or heavy(slave or inmate). To have a good understanding of what we are saying here let me take you on a brief history of man and the need for the light chain in our society.
    The hobbesian theory of political and social philosophy that at the beginning of the world every man was free and there was no society then, this individuals leaves independently and survive on their own, hence it was survival of the fittest, but who is fit? Even the fittest man will still go to his sleep, the he is vulnerable. He called the state -  the state of nature, then life was brutish, nasty and short. Due to the adverse effect of the state of nature, people wanted a solution, they came together and signed a social contract to live together in peace and have a supreme leader "THE LEVIATHAN".  THE LEVIATHAN was to have an unquestionable power. Hobbes proves that no matter how arbitrary the leviathan may be, it is still better that the state of
nature. Then the leviathan establish rules limiting the people's absolute freedom and since then different types of government have replaced another but still placing us in chains.
   In corollary to the above, the close observation George Orwell's BOOK "animal farm"  and "The communist manifesto"  by Karl Marx have helped us to reach the conclusion that no matter what type of government succeed another, the chains remain and oppression remain; they could only be milder than another. In the book animal farm the animals revolted against the farmers because the oppressed them.  The revolution was lead by the pigs and the pigs became the new leaders of the farm. As time goes on the formed a new rule to guide the farm " all animals are equal but some are more equal and the pigs started carrying whips  Also in the communist manifesto the bourgeoisie mercilessly oppressed the working proletariat. Marx hence deposited that when when the oppressed (proletariat) can't take it no longer there would be a revolution and the proletariat will overthrow  the bourgeoisie ruling class and a new idea will become the bases of the society, lands, food and wealth will be shared among the people. Hence a new ruling class is formed.
    Coming to the so called modern free States like Nigeria and U.S.A, Democracy is perceived as the government that allowed for freedom without boundaries, but in the actual sense there are a lot of boundaries still guiding the our acts. For example a man puts his car on the high way and start driving, there are still the speed limits and lines to guide his action.
     The court is the line between the light chain(freeman) and the thick chain(inmate). The government makes law(the light chain) by which every man must live by and anyone who breaks such law and was caught will be arraigned before a court and if found guilty, might be exhumed from the society and confined(thick chains).
   In conclusion Man can never be absolutely free no matter the  government might be or the condition might be. We still work by the law which is a chain on its own limiting our freedom, remember absolute freedom is absolute corruption.
*NOTE: THE main essence of this article is not to call for a revolution, but to help us in the better understanding of our society and that the light chain is good for any society as far as the members of such society are willing to be bond by it.
                                      Daramola olamodesi
                                      THE ISED WATCH

THE 7 DEADLY FOIBLES

                                       

  Today we are going to have an insight into the deadly sins and how they destroy an entities soul and corrupt others morality.  Firstly,  before we Commence,  we must identify this deadly vices. Luckily today I will also be using animals as a good representation of these sins. The sins includes:
1. Avarice- Toad
2. Lust - goat
3. Sloth - snail
4. Hubris - peacock
5. Malicious envy - snake
6. Wrath - lion
7. Gluttony - pig
   All the above mentioned characteristics directly or indirectly engender the moralities of others. Let's now probe into each and everyone of them.
   Avarice - also known as greed or covetousness is a sin of desire. However, greed is an inordinate desire to acquire or possess more than one needs, especially with respect to material wealth. Hoarding of materials or objects, theft and robbery , violence or trickery manipulation of authority and it's funds are all actions that may be inspired by Greed.
    Lust - It is usually thought of as intense or unbridled sexual desire, which leads to fornication , adultery , rape , bestiality , and other immoral sexual acts. Lust could also be used in general terms e.g lust for power, lust for money, lust for blood etc
   Sloth - also known as laziness may be defined as absence of interest or habitual disinclination to exertion. Sloth is also the indifference to work. Sloth is a sin of omitting responsibility. Sloth can lead to crimes and violence in our society through frauds and all other quick money seeking ways.
    Hubris - is the negative part of version of pride. Hubris Is without humility and with corrupt selfishness. Hubris is the irrational believe that one is better or more important and failing to acknowledge the accomplishment of others. Excessive feelings of hubris have a tendency to create conflict and sometimes terminating close relationships.
   Malicious envy - can be described as a sad or resentful covetousness towards the traits or possessions of someone else. Malicious envy is similar to jealousy in that they both feel discontent towards someone's traits, status, abilities, or rewards. A difference is that the envious also desire the entity and covet it. Bertrand Russell said that envy was one of the most potent causes of unhappiness.
  Wrath - can be defined as uncontrolled feelings of anger, rage , and even hatred , often revealing itself in the wish to seek vengeance. [28] Wrath, in its purest form,
presents with injury, violence, and hate that may provoke feuds that can go on for centuries. Wrath may persist long after the person who did another a grievous wrong is dead.
   Gluttony - is the overindulgence and
overconsumption of anything to the point of waste. It is also the sin of excessive desire for food. Gluttony can make a person lose attachment to health-related,
social, intellectual, and spiritual pleasures; and lose proper judgement.
    Now we have known more about the deadly foibles,  we should try and desist from the so as to better a society and our own personal mind and body.

NECESSARY EVILS, PART 1: MODERNIZATION AND TECHNOLOGY

                  

  Modernisation refers to a model of a progressive transition from a 'pre-modern' or ' traditional ' to a 'modern' society. Technology is the collection of techniques, skills , methods and processes used in the production of goods or services or in the
accomplishment of objectives, such as scientific investigation. Technology can be the knowledge of techniques, processes, etc. or it can be embedded in machines, computers, devices and factories, which can be operated by individuals without detailed knowledge of the workings of such things. We can then arrive at a conclusion that modernisation and technology work hand in hand to develop our contemporary society.
   Although the importance of technology advancement and modernisation cannot be overemphasized in our society today, modernisation does not emerge without its own vices. And we shall be discussing some of these vices in this article.
            VICES OF MODERNISATION.
   THE vices or disadvantages of modernisation includes the following:
1. Mankind's violent nature: technology has lead to the invention of numerous weapons that have lead to the deaths of nearly a billion people over our history (e.g use of bomb, automatic rifle, sword and shield).
2. Over dependence: we have become over dependent on our machinery and cannot seem to function without it: (dependence on computers, television, automobiles.)
3. Related to the above is sloth: As machinery picks up the slack humans tend to become lazy.(for example most mathematical question were now solved with computers, rather than the painstaking process of the brain, the use of vacuum cleaners,  washing machine, dishwasher etc also culminate to laziness)
4. Death of written arts: As television and the internet and gaming increase in popularity, pieces of written work fall into the background of culture. Most people in
the younger age group were unaware of the lord of the rings until it was filmed.
5. Lose of local work: As the ability of satellite and telephone conferencing becomes more available it is possible to send more jobs abroad.
6 . Health problems: as the automobile has slowly progressed so has its fuel. The formula for gasoline has changed several times, one of the most harmful was a
gasoline mixture with beryllium in it with has been proven to cause cancer.
7 . Transference of technology to less mature users: It is widely known that the USA has given technology for war use to Israel and other countries in times of crisis, but what isn't well known is that the Taliban was a guerrilla group armed and trained by the United States that was meant to drive Communist Russia out of
Afghanistan. After the Russians were defeated in Afghanistan in the 80's the people they trained formed terrorist groups (The Taliban) that were responsible for the 9/11 attacks.
8. Cloning: While making a perfect Identical clone is currently impossible there is a problem with the basic genetic markers in most animal DNA that causes a major problem. There are markers of unknown quantity in all mammal DNA these markers decay and get shorter every time they are replicated which is what is theorized to cause aging. If you take DNA from a forty year old and create a child using said DNA the child's DNA will have the same age markers giving the child a 20-35 year life span. Meaning the clone is the same age as the DNA giver, even though it looks like a child.
Dolly the sheep and her clone died at nearly the same time despite a vast age difference. But if cloning was to be successful, jus imagine how brilliant a rich man kid could be when he could easily clone Einstein or 1 of the geniuses of his time. Just saying.
9. Pollution: It causes harm to the atmosphere and oceans. The rate of atmospheric CO2 is increasing dramatically and it bears the signature of our automobiles. There is a mass and charge difference between the CO2 that power plants and cars produce vs natural CO2, but this is kept from the public to
attempt to keep us burning fuel worry free. CO2 in the air cause acid rain or carbonic acid H2CO2 to form... it has lowered the pH in some parts of the ocean from 8
to 6.5.
10. Doomsday scenarios: there are many doomsday scenarios like nuclear holocaust and man made virus
problems but one of my favorites is the GRAY GOD theory. In this theory self replicating nano robots smaller than most cells are created to do various jobs.
One of the theorized jobs is to remove floating oil from the ocean after an oil spill. Oil is mostly carbon so the bots need to be programmed to eat this particular carbon, but it is thought if they malfunction they may eat all carbon! Meaning Zillions of self replicating carbon hungry monsters, light enough to be evaporated with water and rained down world wide, would eat every thing carbon on the planet! reducing trees, plants and animals to a grayish colored goo. What a slow and painful death that would be...
    Of certainty is the fact, God will not destroy earth just like in the time of Noah, we shall kill our home by our own hands through nuclear wars, pollution and arbitrary advancement in technology Inter alia if we don't take extra caution.
   In conclusion, modernisation and technology advancement cannot be stop, because it is a necessary evil, it is of great importance to the development of man and at the same time it is creating a path for the destruction of man. Since a society cannot refrain from been modern,  I did advice that the international community should step up their caution on the use of technologies just as to prolong the existence of MAN AND EARTH.

POWER

   power is the ability to influence or control the behavior of people through force.  The main distinguishing factor between power,  influence and authority is the presence of force in power, influence and authority might not involve force.
BASES OF POWER
A schema of sources of power by which to analyse how power plays work (or fail to work) in a specific relationship. These bases includes:
1. legitimate power - It is also called positional power, it is the power a person derive from a relative position of his. Legitimate power is formal authority delegated to the holder of the position.
2. Referent power - Referent power is the power or ability of individuals to attract others and build loyalty. It is based on the
charisma and interpersonal skills of the power holder. A person may be admired because of specific personal trait, and this admiration creates the opportunity for interpersonal influence.
3.  Expert power - Expert power is an individual's power deriving from the skills or expertise of the person and the organization's needs for those skills and expertise. Unlike the others, this type of power is usually highly specific and limited to the particular area in which the expert is trained and qualified.
4. Reward power - Reward power depends on the ability of the power wielder to confer valued material rewards, it refers to the degree to which the individual can give others a reward of some kind such as benefits, time off, desired gifts, promotions
or increases in pay or responsibility.
5. Coercive power - Coercive power is the application of negative influences. It includes the ability to demote or to withhold other rewards. The desire for valued rewards or the fear of having them withheld that ensures the obedience of those under power. Coercive power tends to be the most obvious but least effective form of power as it builds resentment and resistance from the people who experience it.
    Power no matter how it is derived or established has limits, and should not be used beyond such limits.  Like sun tzu once said never pressurize a retreating enemy.  So when we use power to some stages we should try and minimize it so as to avoid resistance,  revolution or rebellion.  For example in an autocratic nation,  the leader might not survive for long or might end up been a zero if he pressurize his people a lot as revolts looks more likely.
    Power is necessary but not compulsory. We can't always depend on power,  as absolute power corrupt Absolutely.  We need a precautionary measurement to supervise and ensure against the arbitrary use of power. If power is no there so people will not adhere, notwithstanding, influence, charisma, and authority can also come into use.

RELATIONSHIP ISSUE PART 4: BOREDOM

                    

   Do you think you’re both stuck in a rut – in a dull marriage or long-term relationship? Maybe it’s time to inject some energy into your relationship or marriage, before you give up hope. I'm going to help you with that right here and now. I have a list of solutions to help dispel that boredom and create more excitement, as well as intimacy. 

   In a relationship it is fairly normal for partners that all the flushing excitement at beginning of their relationship wear off after a particular period of time,  this time could last for months or even years. However, some romantic relationship could last. To bring back that lost sparkle or the radiant excitement of the early stage of your relationship you need to engage in some completely NEW activities with your partner. 
  Sometimes, boredom arises in our relationship as a result of having a fast paced excitement about another aspect of life e. g work, outing, sports etc Couples might be engulfed by their work and studies that they have less time for one another.  The intimacy is not there,  sooner or later boredom arrives and a problem starts in such relationship. In other to solve this type of relationship issue,  you have to reschedule your schedule,  build new routine, and create time for one another and you will have a better relationship free from boredom. For example take a ticket on a Monday, get a break from work and visit the cinema or beach or somewhere that can rekindle that fire. 
   Whatever you do - it has to be new to create that bonding effect! Get away for a few days and do something completely out of the ordinary for you. You can go cheap – by going camping or hiring a
bicycle. Or you can go luxurious – even if only for one night. In fact: make plans as well as provision for the spontaneous. Relationship is like a plant and if you don't water and take care of it, it will wither. You can put a cross on your diary and provide time like a night or a forth night just to be together and revive the dieing relationship.
   To leave the realm of boredom,  you can retrace or find old tracks, things that makes you feel better in the past.  For example play the music you heard when you first met, find those old pictures, even use the after shave or perfume you used when you first met her. Try to always appreciate her, think about all the reasons you loved her at the first instance. 
   Finally try to engage in some new sexual adventure with your partner.  New sexual adventures have been said to sparkle new experience into relationships?
   Are you still bored in your relationship after you have tried any of the above solutions, then I did advice you to visit a councillor, but if the problem persist the I think distance will do.

FADED GLORY

                 

   what do you think a FADED glory is? What do you believe in? A FADED glory or an instant glory. 
   Firstly the word FADED could mean 2 different things; the process by which something appear slowly or the process by which something disappear slowly, but here what we are concerned with is the first instance(from fade to bold).  Hence, when we talk about FADED glory we talk about that glory wish appear slowly through a meticulous and painstaking process.
    Many youth nowadays wants to have the glory, the wealth, and the fame, but how many of them are ready to dance to the tune of meticulous city? None of them. They all want the glory fast, they want it instantly, but how many of us are aware that success and glory do not come easy.
   The popular text "live fast die young" is not a lie. If a man sought after instant glory  and I gets it by a crude means, it is a general rule that he may experience an instant death too.... 
   The hustle and struggle should be an handy work and not illegals....  FADED glory appears slowly with hard work and diligence, but the advantage  of FADED glory is that it the owner of the glory have a lot of time to enjoy himself.
   In conclusion the hustle of a young man should not be crude, illegal or an authentic search for instant glory, but hard work and diligence that produce a PERMANENT GLORY

WHEN THE EXIST CEASE TO EXIST

   "The earth is the home of existence and the home of man, if earth is destroyed where then shall man live."
   The condition of our home is degrading and this is as a result of our own influence and work, Man is killing himself and he is behaving carefree. 
    Mahatma Ghandi once said earth provides enough to satisfy every man's needs, but not every man's greed. Yes,  every man deserve to eat, have a housing and be guaranteed a freedom to exercise their purpose and activity on earth, but some people have taken this liberty to an extreme length of incomprehension. The wealthy ones builds an infinite number of  artificial compounds hereby reducing the area of Earth nature occupies.  The industrialist does not even wants to care about his environment and the health of the people there, all he cares about is making his money and satisfying his own greed. Carbon monoxide, nitrogen,  lead etc are released into our atmosphere every day by this industries.
   The parasite that suck the blood of a host and rejoices is not aware of the fact that as the death of the host moves nearer so the death of the parasite. It is expedient to note that man cannot survive without nature,  so why is man hurting nature?
  A nation that destroys its soils destroys itself. Forests are the lungs of our land, purifying the air and giving fresh strength to our people - Franklin D. Roosevelt.  This wilderness we lumber without replacing are essential to the existence of man like president Roosevelt observed if we destroy all the forest what shall purify our air and how will the condition of Earth be stable. What is the essence of having a beautiful house without a habitable or beautiful planet to put it on?
    Why then is man killing himself by destroying his home just to satisfy his greed?
  

MY RELIGION

                   

   "my conscience is my religion and the street is my temple"
   The conscience is an aptitude, faculty , intuition or judgment that assists in distinguishing right from wrong. The remorseful feeling or guilt an individual feels after the commit that which is wrong is the torture by the conscience, the satisfaction and joy we feel when we do that which is good is the credit by the conscience. In other words, our action are judge by our conscience and no man liveth without a conscience. Is it possible that a man do what is evil without him knowing he is doing evil?  No, the conscience is there to torture him and try to set him on the right path. Imagine those time you didn't do your assignment,  even before you get to the appropriate authority you already have this spirit in your mind telling you "you have done wrong and you will be punished".  That is your conscience.
   A religion  is a cultural system of behaviors and practices, world views, sacred texts, holy places, ethics, and societal organisation that relate humanity to what an anthropologist has called "an order of existence". Religion may consist the believe in supernatural beings or entity,  believe in divinity, believe in mysteries,  believe in scared things, or BELIEVE IN SOME OTHER NORMS THAT WILL PROVIDE POWER THE REST OF SOMEONE'S LIFE. A religion must be a set of believes or cultural practices which must be practice and sermonised in a place dedicated for such purpose. For example as Christians believes in God and worship him in a church,  Muslims believes in Allah and the worship him in the mosque.
   Generally the word Street means a paved road or a place people can  assemble and Interact and move about freely, but the street we shall be discussing in this context transcend just it's literal translation. The street consist of our environment either urban or rural and how we relate with the people in such environment either poor or rich. In short the environment you occupy is your street and how are you affecting your street?
   My conscience is my religion and the street is the temple.  The conscience tells you what is wrong and what is good,  and in other to put its teaching into practice we need a temple for it and that is the street.  The place where we could see our fellow humans suffering,  oppression and discontent. The remorse god(conscience) tells us to help and of we fail to help it pricks back as a punishment for our offence.
   Einstein once said never go against your conscience even if the state demands it.  Now am saying never go against your own conscience even if your religion demands it. For the conscience is the almost measure of religion set up by our mother nature and we have to always yield to it.
   Richard Bach once observed that the conscience is the measure of the honesty of your selfishness. Listen to it carefully. Is it not obnoxious then to see preachers, priest, imams and other spiritual leader live flamboyant and exotic life when there is still that poor man struggling on the street for scraps of foods. A preacher will have 4 private jets(can't 1 private jet do) when there is still a member of his church who can't afford a slippers conveniently. And then I was forced to ask where is the preacher's conscience?
   Our conscience should be the greatest judge of our character and nothing should stand in between. And to achieve a good conscience we need to feed it with good character and be open minded

NATURE: THE MYSTERY UNTOLD

   According to the wikipedia Nature , in the broadest sense, is the natural, physical, or
material world or universe. "Nature" can refer to the phenomena of the physical world, and also to life in general. The aspect of nature we are concerned here with is the fact that NATURE IS LIFE, NATURE IS EVERYTHING and NATURE IS MOTHER TO ALL.
   The word nature was derived from the Latin world natura which literally means birth. Nature gave birth to all, everything that exist was a result of nature. Looking back act the biblical history and evolutionary history of creation, they both have 1 thing in common, the fact that life came out of nothing "The bible scholars believed that God created the world out of the void and the evolutionist believed that life grew out of an explosion".
    How then is it possible for something to grow out of nothing? Firstly let's ask ourselves what is nature in its first instance?, nature is nothing nature is adaptation, nature cannot be perceived, nature is not something we can touch it, actually nature was more than a god.
   If a void ever existed before the creation of earth, that void was nature and according to the bible God created the earth out of nature(void). The particles that exist before the creation of life was nature. Nature collided with itself and sprung life. Either which way you argue how life come to been there is still 1 unifying fact, that nature was before life and life sprung from nature.
  *NOTE: respect nature, because shes our mother and existence would have not been without her
   

MODUS OPERANDI

                       

  Everything you see and discuss will continue to have effect on you, if you are always used to seeing corrupt things you might tends towards acting corrupt, likewise if you you're used to discussing and seeing great things you tends to do great things.- Daramola olamodesi
   MODUS OPERANDI is a particular way or method of doing something. Modus operandi is a Latin phrase which is directly translated as method of operation.  Although the term modus operandi is commonly used in the context of business and criminal investigation,  we shall also adopt this phrase to the day to day activities of men.
    The modus operandi or modi operandi (pluralistic speaking) of an individual starts all from when he was an infant.  The method of which he does things can be greatly by the method by which he was first exposed to.  In corollary to this the method of operation of a person can be greatly affected by the following situations:
1. Inheritance.
2. Exposure.
3. Environment.
4. Peer groups/pressure. 
5. Fear.
    INHERITANCE: let's look from an audacious perspective; if a man have always been acting with wrath and immense magnitude through out his whole life,  what is expected of the child he gave birth to. Commonly our actions and methods tends to leans towards that of our parent...  Some times we inherit this traits from the. Both bad and good.
   EXPOSURE: when a kid is growing up the  conditions and tutelage he grew up amidst can also go a long way in deciding his method of operation and what he did become.  Take for example a kid who grew up among gangster have the tendency of behaving badly and becoming a terrorist while a kid who grew up amidst priest is of high probability of behaving good and becoming a bishop.  Why?, Because the first kid would have been exposed to bad acts while the alternate kid could have been exposed to good acts.
   ENVIRONMENT: the environment in which we live also affects our thinking and ways of doing things....  Someone who lives in the ghetto will live a rough life while someone who lives in a city will live an organised life.
   PEER PRESSURE: most people have acted rashly and cautiously because of peer pressure. A boy might run into premarital sex because his friend talks about it and put pressure on him.  And a boy might become a better student and read his book better because his friends abuse him and calls him Dullard.  So he steps up his struggle just to lift up himself to the standard of other students.
   FEAR: a Christian is morally upright because of the fear of God so as the Muslims fear Allah.  They take to his commandment and behave morally upright.  Contrasting to this a member of a secret cult or occult might be forced to commit murder because it is required of him by his occult and he fears the consequences of not accepting the task.
   IN CONCLUSION the conditions, environment, exposure etc in which we find ourselves  or live in have a great task in defining who we will become and the way we do things.

RELATIONSHIP ISSUES PART 3: MR & MRS RIGHT

                     

    All around the world young men and women have listed love and attraction over personal traits as a requirement for matrimonial covenants. However , research have shown that people with the best marital satisfaction have ended up with people with excellent personal trait regardless of which type of spouse they think they want. Particularly, a spouse emotional stability and agreeableness have been discovered to stimulate sexual and marital satisfaction. Hence its better to have a warm, cooperative and agreeable spouse rather than have the arrogant, moody and hot looking spouse.

   You may be thinking that the spouses with excellent traits sound boring. You want someone very attractive and interesting, and believe you're willing to put up with some moodiness or arrogance to have that attraction. Remember the attractive and arrogant individuals always derive attention: they are sporadically emotionally or physically available, creating the impression that they are a scarce and valuable resources. The arrogant believes his/her good moods and love must earned. A process that hold at bay any evaluation of their characters.
   Young people who have ended up in relationship with arrogant individuals have failed to realise 1 thing, until they have endured a very long stretch of unfairness in their relationship; the fact that their arrogant spouse was expecting some consideration in return for the existence of such relationship. "Much like in a dating relationship in which the party who desires the other more must accommodate the other’s wishes, the arrogant spouse
assumes you will do more than half the work to compensate for your lower desirability. Their expectation sounds unreasonable, but arrogant people are image builders not truth-seekers" - Anita kelly Ph.D.
    The exclusive focus on a partner's good quality and not the bad ones could also cloud good judgement of their character. Consider what Walter Mischel observed regarding how people judged whether a given person had a certain personality trait. He found that they would recall and string together examples of that person’s behavior across time that were highly representative of that specific trait—yet they would fail to notice contradictory examples. For example, in determining maybe a friend is caring we might remember when she lent us money or gave us food to eat, hereby, overlooking her other uncaring behaviours.
   To keep from ending up with an arrogant, deceptive, or exploitative spouse, cast a broad net. There are so many single people out there, especially on internet dating sites, you have no excuse for settling for the gummy worms on the kitchen counter when you can find a golden apple elsewhere. Remember what you are looking for is humility and what you are avoiding is arrogance. When you do find that sincere, humble, fair-minded
person, you might be shocked to discover how sexy he or she is rather that the believe that humble people are uninteresting and unattractive.
   You can never be sure if a romantic partner is decent enough for marriage, but you can tell if they are not good enough from their belittling acts.

Note*: Mr. right is not always right but Mr. wrong is always right. - Daramola Olamodesi

FIELDING THE DEVIL

   Who is the devil?, The devil from the Greek word diábolos meaning slanderer or accuser is believed in many religions, myths and cultures to be a supernatural entity that is the personification of evil and the archenemy of God and humankind.
   Even though the devil is perceived as the archenemy of mankind, people still run to him during tribulation, seeking power, seeking riches, seeking fame and seeking redemption from the king of damnation.
   Many have sought his atrocious face but few have found it. The few that found that face, struck a deal with baphomet, Lucifer, beezelbub or so which name they call him.  They became great, they became rulers of this world, they got fame and became celebrities, with only 1 price to pay in return, eternal damnation of their soul.
   Those who seeks his face without even gifting their soul to him, are still requires to pay a debt of blood sacrifice. Ilblis does not give without a price. He grants you wishes for a price to pay.
   Something  that amuses me most about the said lord of the underworld, is that he is still inferior to some other entity(e.gGod) as prescribed by many tales and religion all over the world. And people still seek the face of this inferior entity, when there is a superior entity waiting to save their soul.
   You can field the devil, yes but you can't expect to defeat him in the game. No matter how intelligent a man is he can never transcend the brilliance of this trick master. He gives little and takes large. He promise you a child in return for an adult. You can never outsmart him. Imagine a scenario where a man is immune to death sentence and he commits murder and get life imprisonment in return, this is just how the Satan manipulate the soul of man, he give the so called immunity to your soul on earth, in return you commit murder for him and you then suffer life imprisonment at hades.
   Fielding the devil symbolise 2 things ---1. playing a game of his own against him(trick) and 2. Fielding him as your player and expect him to win the game for you. In the first instance, trying to trick the devil is like playing the game of chess against magnus carlsen or playing the game of soccer against Lionel messi. That is the devil's best field(trick). For example a man ask the devil to be a world ruler in return for his soul, bearing it in mind that he would repent after becoming such ruler, the devil did make him a world dictator but in his first day in office he was assassinated. Checkmate!!! In the later instance "you can't field the devil and expect him to win the game for you"(#isedquotes). The devil on 1 part is already a loser to a supreme being and you signing a pact with him, means you becoming a part to the devil's loss. The game between God and devil is already won, is it possible that evil supersede good?
   The devil is human ultimate enemy, never perceive him as your friend even when he poses to be, remember if you ever play his game against with him, for him or against him, you are on the loosing end

ENSLAVED BY FREEDOM

   Slavery refers to a condition in which

individuals are owned by others, who
control where they live and at what
they work. According to the wikipedia,
Slavery is a legal or economic system in which principles of property law are applied to humans allowing them to be
classified as property, to be owned, bought and sold accordingly, and they cannot withdraw unilaterally from the arrangement. In other words, the aforementioned owned individuals are called SLAVES.
   On the other hand, FREEDOM is the state of not being imprisoned or enslaved. It is the power or right to think, speak and act as one wants. FREEDOM is the removal of restriction from ones movement and legal actions.
   After accessing the two facts supra,  is it not contrasting to call someone a slave of freedom? I.e a slave of dis-enslavement. Well the topic SLAVES OF FREEDOM was just to create our awareness to the fact that humans are getting lost into freedom. Some act we make out of freedom are uncalled for.
   Through out the history of man, from the ancient world to the modern world, slavery have existed, human keep and will keep agitating for freedom. Majority of humans won this freedom fight but in turn became a slave of them self(flesh) and the so called liberty took control of everything.
   The disadvantages of having too much freedom is the loss of control amongst the people. Anarchy. The more freedom you have the less government the less service that can be provided to a person. A person could have the freedom to walk around and kill people at will. People trade freedom for safety in our society today.
   Take for example, the call for the same sex marriage is all grounded on the fact that everyman has the freedom to do what he wants with is body. Another example is the husband and wife equality status, another act which is grounded on the fact of individual independence. Although a man might be free to do what he wants, but have the consequences of this acts being evaluated? The passing of a bill for same sex marriage encourages such a devilious act and a bill for equal status in marriage will tear apart marriages. Imagine a world where even cultist push for freedom of association, that is the world we are

   A slave of freedom wants what makes him happy, does he really thinks about the state of other people's happiness in relation to his own happiness? NO, he doesn't care, all he care about is AM I HAPPY? For instance the SLAVE wants freedom to engage in same sex marriage but does not think that his action might corrupt the mind of the general public. The slave smokes in the public place because he is free to do so, without thinking about the health of the people in his environment.
   Conclusively, for a better society to exist, we need to check our mind, our conscience and our thought, are we not 1 of the people FREEDOM have enslaved?, are we not lost in HIS tentacles? If we are one of HIS slaves, I urge us to take a stance against FREEDOM'S unforeseen tyranny today.

POWER OF ENCOURAGEMENT.

   Who said the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon-- zig ziglair.
   Encouragement is to stimulate inspiration through confidence, courage and spirit. It is the act of encouraging I.e to do something to make someone do something.
   People sometimes loose faith in them self and what they can do, they feel like the world is crumbling down, they can't find a safety plan or an escape route from their current situation. Anytime we find people in this state of depression, we have to help them, we need to encourage them because that hello, a helping smile and a word of encouragement might change the whole story or even save a life.
   Anne frank observed that how wonderful will the world be if people didn't wait a single moment in improving the world. "Truly the world is dieing and to resurrect it we need the word" -- ised. We can't just sit down and do nothing, a world of encouragement must be said on daily basis to heal the world and better the thinking of its habitants. Take for example if a man looses all his wealth maybe through a business failure or through some other means, he then decides to commit suicide, how good will it be if you could just convince him that his loss is not the end and he still have a lot to offer to the world. You did save a soul at this moment.
   The picture above portray a true fact about everyone of us. We all have that better part of us we are not exploiting(the great version). We all have more in us than we think, all we need is a little spark, an obvious encouragement to get us out of our oblivion.
    Man is granted a limited time to grab and stamp his name to this world's mark book, but still you have to decide what to do with this limited time in a very very limited time. You can't just seat back thinking things will be better, you have to take a step, fight the struggle, and conquer the hustle.
   IN CONCLUSION, we need to heal the world from crime, corruption and depression and we can only achieve by encouraging ourselves and others.

RELATIONSHIP ISSUES PART 2: RELATIONSHIP VIOLENCE

                                       Check your relationship today is it love or Stockholm syndrome? Or Lima syndrome ?. are you the captor? or the hostage?-- Daramola olamodesi.

   Domestic violence is violent or aggressive behaviour within the home, typically involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner.
   Domestic violence is one of the major problems of relationship nowadays, and many of such victims have kept quiet about their abysmal plight.
   Domestic influence may include the following:
1.physical abuse.
2.Verbal/Emotional abuse.
  Physical abuse is any intentional and
unwanted contact with you or something
close to your body. Sometimes abusive
behavior does not cause pain or even
leave a bruise, but it’s still unhealthy.
Examples of physical abuse are:
Scratching, punching, biting,
strangling or kicking. Throwing something at you such as a phone, book, shoe or plate. Pulling your hair. Pushing or pulling you. Grabbing your clothing. Using a gun, knife, bat or other weapon. Smacking your bottom. Grabbing your face to make you look at them. Sexual abuse etc
   Most college and high school relationship nowadays suffer physical abuse and the following steps should be taken against such abuse: realise such behavior is wrong, talk to an adult about it, create a safety plan, do not create excuses for such physical abuse and remember physical abuse is never your fault.
   Emotional abuse includes non-physical
behaviors such as threats, insults,
constant monitoring, excessive texting, humiliation, intimidation, isolation or stalking.
   Emotional abuse may include the following: Yelling and screaming at you.
Intentionally embarrassing you in
public. Preventing you from seeing or talking with friends and family. Telling you what to do and wear. Damaging your property when they’re angry (throwing objects, punching walls, kicking doors, etc.) Blaming your actions for their abusive or unhealthy behavior. Accusing you of cheating and often being jealous of your outside relationships. Stalking you etc
   Verbal abuse might have not inflicted any damage on you physically but it affect your state of mind. E.g getting scared unnecessarily, negative thoughts etc can lead to emotional pain and damage.   
   Remember emotional abuse is never your fault. In fact, your partner may just
be trying to control or manipulate you into
staying in the relationship. Talk to someone you trust, like a parent, friend or
teacher, about the situation and make a safety plan.
   IN CONCLUSION, domestic violence must be prevented,it is a growing disease in our society and fast measures should be taken against this cancer. This prevention strategy may include the following:
1. Reforming the legislation.
2. Changing gender norms.
3. Promoting respect relationship etc.
  

DEFINE YOURSELF WITH YOUR FRIENDS

Proverbs 13:20 He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm

   A friend is someone who is on your side. An example of a friend is an ally in a protest. Friend is defined as a person that you are fond of, with whom you talk or spend time. An example of a friend is the person you have known a long time and trust.
   Now that’s an interesting thought, isn’t it?What does that mean to you? Take a look at your network. Take a look at your friends. Who do you spend the most time with and how do they make you feel? Will they help you achieve your goals?

   The ancient saying "show me your friend and I will tell you who you are" further more concretes the fact been addressed here. A man who befriend honest people tends toward being honest in corollary to this a dishonest fellowship also tends to be dishonest. The word our friends speak, their orientation, their beliefs have a long lasting effects on our character and beliefs.

   While observing the saying from Jim Rohn,"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” helps me the arrive at my own notion; walk with 5 millionaire and you will be the sixth millonaire, walk with 5 broke asses and you will be the sixth broke ass. You move with people that can improve, people that can make you better.

   The people you spend the most time with should: Make you a better person                       Support you,                                                             Push you to meet your goals,

Inspire you,

Help you transform.

   In conclusion there are 5 type of friends you need to have. They include: 

1.A Dreamer will help you dream it.

2.A Driver will help you turn dreams into

reality.

3.A Motivator will inspire you every step

of the way.

4.A Supporter will never leave your side,

through good and bad times.

5.A Devil’s Advocate cuts through the BS

and tells you the real deal.

RELATIONSHIP ISSUES PART 1: ARROGANTIC EFFECTS.

Don't date an umpire
Never date a squire
Date someone you admire
Keep up the desire
To rekindle the fire - Daramola olamodesi
   Relationship is not easy as it seems on the first purview with a deeper leap into such relationship you did get to know each other better and you might discover whoever you are dating is a wrong partner or the right 1 for your marriage. As the subtopic to be discuss mentioned supra is ARROGANCE, which is not cool for any relationship.
   Don't ever date an umpire I.e a person that will control your life entirely and ain't ready to change is no the right person to be your life partner. Love might suppress the effect of this oppression, but it will only last for a while because as time moves on  and there are no changes in the arrogant party's mind the love might wither and all will be gone. For instance imagine a man who doesn't regards the opinions of his wife, he threw everything at her face ... The woman might endure for the time being, but as time goes on she might not be able to cope again and pull a KANYE on such marriage.
   "Never date a squire"-  many thinks dating a total submissive will help the build a good relationship but it doesn't work like that, a submissive cannot help a dominant achieve what two bosses will achieve together. Truly the old adage that 2 heads are better than 1 is true. A house where the wife can't advise the husband and the husband can't advise the wife is going nowhere. We need the advise of our partners hence it is not advisable for us to date a squire since a squire cannot do more than serve his master.
   If a man date someone he admires and adore, every time the partner is angry with another and he remember how much he admire his lover he desire her more and the fire of love burn higher. A partner who admire another partner does not disregard such advise from the said partner. He holds her in high esteem and takes her word for her heart.

THE FOUNDATION OF SUCCESS IS SELF CREDULITY

                                        "As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live." --Johann Wolfgang von Goethe. 

   Credulity is the tendency to be too ready to believe that something is real or true. As soon as a man start to discover his real self and trust that self he will know how to live and success is on his way. A man should always be himself and have faith in himself. Do not go out and look for a
successful personality and try to duplicate
it.
   While many have never achieved success in what they do, they are scared to talk to a girl, make friends, run successful businesses and get rich, why?, because this people didn't really believe in themselves. They are scared of failure, they are scared of what people will say, self doubt still uphold a higher place over them.
   Mistake is necessary, we must accept mistake as been positive instead of negative, try and fail, only through this can a man know his flaws and how to address them. Sometimes being rejected is positive because it grants us a moment to thing about where we have f**ked up.. The best people in history were not socially accepted in the first instance during their time e.g truth-tellers like Socrates, Jesus, Gandhi, Proudhon and Bakunin, Martin Luther King Jr., animal rights philosopher
Peter Singer, unschooling pioneer John Holt, women’s rights activists, abolitionists, and many more Were not socially accepted at their first attempt.
   These things we’re afraid of, they’re actually desirable. We need to learn to see them that way, and embrace them, letting go of the fear. Today I present to you steps to achieving self-credulity which is the basis of success through practice:
1.practice to Push past your discomfort, growing your discomfort method. Human cannot achieve all his success in his comfort zone sometimes we need to step into our discomfort zone, don't be scared of the STRESS.
2.Are you still scared of them?,Put yourself out there, and be OK with not knowing if people will accept you.
3. Stick to a habit, (not listening to the negative self-talk that normally holds you back)
4. Stick to it some more, and learn to trust yourself
5. Go into situations not knowing, and learn to be OK with that.
6. Learn through repeated attempts that it’s OK to fail, that you can be OK in failure.
7. Learn through repeated experiments that you are stronger than you think, that you are more capable and more tolerant of discomfort than you think
   If you stick to this practice you will find your self-credulity leading to self-realisation and finally arriving at a great mind.